How I Found Myself Through Tantra

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Tantra changed my life. In this article I share my journey from shame and disconnection to a place of self‑love, sacred sexuality, and deep spiritual connection. May it inspire you on your own path.

Early Years: Disconnection and Shame

As a young girl, I quickly learned that my developing body was something to hide. My friends and I even taped down our growing breasts to attract less attention, and when I got my first period my teacher quietly sent me home, saying, “I’m so sorry this happened to you.”

I absorbed the message that my body was not sacred or beautiful but something to be ashamed of. Later, as I sought validation, I chose partners who only wanted me for my sexuality and even became an exotic dancer. I had no guidance about sexual energy; it never felt like my sexuality was truly mine.

Awakening to Personal Power

At 25, I joined my first women’s Kundalini class. The radiant teacher proclaimed, “It’s time to take our power back, ladies!” Something lit up in me that day. It felt like she had handed me a sacred truth I had forgotten, and I knew I needed to explore deeper.

Over the next two years I immersed myself in Kundalini practices. I reconnected with my feminine essence and learned to honor my temple body. I shed layers of conditioning and began to live in alignment with my highest self.

Walking Between Worlds

I struggled to reconcile my spiritual path with my love for beauty and the material world. My spiritual friends judged me for enjoying nice things, while my old social circles judged my new lifestyle. I felt caught between two worlds, unsure of where I belonged.

Discovering Tantra

Eventually my path led me to Tantra. At first I thought Tantra was only about sex. I was thrilled to discover it is about life itself—body, mind, and spirit in sacred union. I learned I could follow a spiritual path while also embracing the pleasures of this world.

Tantra taught me to see beauty in everything, to live fully without attachment. The Hindu Goddesses showed me that even my shadows are divine. As I embraced all parts of myself, I learned to truly love the multifaceted woman I am.

Living Tantra Every Day

Tantra is about being present in the here and now. Dancing, painting, making love, creating—these can all become gateways to bliss when done with awareness. Through Tantra I melted away shame and stepped fully into my true identity as a being of light, love, and divinity.

Om Nama Shivaya. Om Shakti Om.