Pleasure is your birthright
Different types of female orgasm’s
Following post is contributed by our member teahers Christiane Ameya
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Let’s dive into this very yummy, super mystical and highly taboo topic of women’s pleasure. If it comes to female orgasm’s women feel generally either shame because they don’t have them (and shame is also one of the causes why they don’t have them) or they have them too much, too intense, too wild, too loud. Shame is huge because we feel ashamed of who we truly are! I lived most of my life disconnected from my true authentic nature, self-love and my own sensuality. I was not able to trust or receive, and I was afraid of intimacy. I had to work to have orgasms. Orgasm is a representation of how we live our life in general. Are we running around striving, doing and trying to achieve a goal or are we enjoying the process, states of simply being and allowing the present moment to unfold its magic. How alive, open and connected are we to all that life offers us, including the beauty of our wild innocent erotic nature.
Why women might not experience orgasms?
If you don’t have orgasms, you are not broken. It totally makes sense from where you come from and how your body responds to pleasure. Some women can let go no matter what, but most of us need to feel safe. Sex is generally something everyone does but mostly no one talks about. As women we grew up in a sex-negative society picking up so many unhealthy messages around our female bodies and sexual organs. It started when we began to explore our bodies and genitals as children, and were made wrong for it. So at an early age we began to shut down our natural flow and expression of sexual energy. We are deeply influenced by religions that preach sex and spirit are separate and pleasure is bad and sinful. This makes us generally feel bad around receiving pleasure, and guilty about one of the most beautiful, powerful and healing forces in this universe. We are lacking education as teenagers. High gloss magazines show us what feminine bodies are supposed to look like. Many of us learn about sexuality from porn that gives us a totally messed up view of what female pleasure and orgasms are about.
We miss sacred initiation rituals into womanhood that remind us and anchor in us the power of the divine feminine within.
Many women experienced very unpleasant first sexual encounters that leave them feeling not loved, honoured and with physical or emotional pain. Men often have no idea what women need to experience multi-orgasmic states of pleasure. How can they know, if we don’t know as women? All of those experiences stay as imprints deep within the texture of our female bodies, hearts and souls.
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