WAYS TO CONSCIOUSLY CONNECT TO GOD/SPIRIT
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The first time we get a taste of being connected to God is usually when we fall in love. For the first time, we think in terms of happiness, not in relation to satisfying oneself, but in relation to satisfying another. We are happy when another is happy. The problem is that this connection generally does not last throughout the whole of our life…one big argument or trauma is sufficient to break the connection. The connection lasts only when there is the total acceptance that both oneself and the other are totally perfect and divine just as we are. In other words, living by the heart mantra “the God in me sees the God in you.” The connection between us and anyone only becomes lasting with the total acceptance that no-one is to be condemned or blamed for anything.
Our own connection to God is so strong that we know God as Self, God as everyone and everything and we know in our hearts, that all that is happening, is in perfect Divine Flow. We no longer project our Divinity or the feeling of Love onto our partner, onto practitioners or teachers and we no longer attach to pleasure or resist pain. Our happiness and capacity to feel Love comes from our connection to Spirit and living from the centre of our hearts. We live love. We surrender to the fact that pain and pleasure are always in the flow of life and stop taking things so personally. Living without being connected to God/Spirit, means living in the darkness of fear, frustration, loneliness, disappointment, reaction and dependency on our external environment for our happiness. Living in the heart with no separation between us and God means living in our natural state of joy and peace.
So how do we develop our connection to God? Well there are lots of ways, here are a few of my favourites that work for me that I would like to share with you.
1. THE MOST SIMPLE PATH TO GOD THAT I HAVE FOUND IS FOCUSING ALL OF MY ATTENTION ON MY HEART
No matter what is arising, bringing my attention back to my heart and holding my focus there on whatever is happening in my heart. It sounds simple, and it is, and once you learn the skill involved, it is also deeply profound. We all can feel what is in our hearts, and we do. What we don’t understand are the subtlties of attention that are involved to activate the Alchemy of the Heart. It is a practice and a path of direct experience and when it is combined with breath, movement and sound allows us to clear all the barriers that we have built against love itself (refer to blog “the emotional body as a gateway to metamorphosis”)
Bringing our attention to our heart, and simply focusing on what is happening there, makes it possible to directly experience life as it is, be in the present moment, and meet ourselves in our own precious hearts, no matter what we are feeling in any given moment. This practice also offers a profound level of healing for our deepest wounds. We can feel whats real in our vulnerable hearts underneath the story…the stab of rejection and abandonment, the fear of intimacy and closeness, the desire to withdraw and contract or become needy…its all there is in our hearts to be seen and felt so we can begin to take a new level of responsibility for how we feel. We can also feel gratitude, joy, expansion.
We get out of our heads and cultivate a practice of heart-centric living instead of head-centric. Amazing changes occur within our hearts when we begin to get really present with what lies there, so that healing of painful emotional states occurs and we open to the silence and peace of our essential nature. Focusing on the heart can be a meditation in itself. I love putting on beautiful mantra and just focusing on my heart with breath sound and movement. So beautiful and a portal into whats authentically going on.
At the moment, whilst there are huge changes going on in my life and my decisions are having a big impact on my family, focusing on my heart is the one thing that is bringing me back to peace and helping me to see things clearly. I can check in…is this decision made from my Heart, is it imbued with love and presence…yes…ahhhhhh, ok then trust. It will all work out.
At first it is helpful to use this practice as a meditation where you set time aside each day or several times a day to focus on the heart. Eventually you will begin to automatically drop you attention into your heart, even when you are not sitting in meditation. When you are conversing, when you are hugging someone or making love, when you are cooking and cleaning or in a traffic jam!, when you are with clients, children, family members…it is a living meditation that becomes a path to living love. This is not spiritual bypass, as the purpose and possibility here is to feel everything fully, as it is, whatever it is, without having one’s attention split between feeling and the story line going on in the mind. It is also a very practical practice, in that we can focus on our hearts anywhere, any time, without formal sitting. Before long, we can meet the mundane, the holy, the light, the dark with grace beyond imagining.
2. HAVE A MEDITATION PRACTICE EVERY DAY WHERE YOU TAKE THE TIME TO CONNECT WITH SELF/SPIRIT/GOD.
There are so many different styles of meditation, including using the heart focus practice described above. Here is another one that I use to really clear that central column so that I can activate the alchemy of the heart even more expansively, especially if I am feeling really off centre and out of my body. You may want to adopt it as a framework, however it is important that your meditation practice resonates with YOU:
***By moving through the chakras you can feel which chakra is holding any blockages which makes it easier to release what no longer serves and bring more power to what does.
Allow your body to relax and let your arms rest loosely at your side. Breathe deeply and feel yourself relax as you do so. Allow your breath to become deeper and more even, relaxing with every breath.
Allow yourself to become more relaxed with every breath you take and as you do release all the cares in your life, letting go of your thoughts allowing your mind to become quiet and still. Breathe down the front of your body, front of your spine, listen, notice, watch. Pause at the end of the inhalation for 4-5 seconds then breathe out the back of the spine, out the crown to infinity….anything that no longer serves. Keep going with this breath as you breathe into each of the chakras.
Imagine a red flower bud at the base of your spine. As it starts to open see that it is vibrant and full of life energy. This joins you to the earth and her energy. This flower is the basis of our everyday existence. It promotes self love and care of you. Say the words, I have everything I need. I am grounded, stable and safe. I trust the Great Mother and the Great Father. I trust in Divine Flow.
Now move your attention along the spine to the lower abdomen to about two inches below the navel and imagine an orange flower bud in this area. As it starts to open see that it is the core of your emotions. The energy from this flower allows you to feel whatever you are feeling without judgment…happy, sad, anxious, just give whatever you are feeling absolute acceptance. Acceptance helps to provide peace and balance in your life. Also feel the flow of harmonious relating and empowered sexuality. Let go of any fear guilt and shame you have around your emotional body and your sexuality as exhale out the back of your spine.
Now move your attention along the spine to the base of the rib cage to the area of your solar plexus. Imagine a yellow flower bud starting to open and as it opens you see the energy that flows from it, this is the energy of your power. Breathe and feel the beauty of your unique soul essence. Feel confidence and self assurance radiating. Breathe out any self defeating or limiting beliefs.
Now move your attention along your spine to the area of your heart. Imagine a beautiful green flower bud starting to unfurl and feel the love that pours fourth from it, this is the spring of the love that you have, the love that fills all that you are and all that you do. Allow yourself to feel this love, and know that it keeps you warm in its care. Open to receiving and giving this love. Say the words I AM LOVE.
Moving your attention on along the spine to the throat area, imagine a blue flower opening. This is the opening of your inner influence, your guidance to sincerity, truthfulness and understanding. Take time to listen to this voice and it will guide you. Breathe out the need to please or talk about other people and events. Breathe in the power of authentic heart centred communication.
Now moving your attention up into your head to the centre of your brow, see the indigo flower bud that starts to unfurl as its petals open become aware of the presence of your own spirit. In the energy that comes from the opening petals you become strong and more aware of your intuition. Say the words, I trust the power of my intuition as you breathe in and breathe out any self doubt.
Rising up now to the top of your head a white tipped violet flower is opening and the energy flowing from it flows upwards, connecting you with the highest guidance. You find yourself becoming aware and accepting that you are guided in all that you do. Things become clear to you and you feel happy and contented, at one with yourself and the world. Let the love and light of Spirt bathe your body, healing the your mind, your heart and your life. Feel the power of golden or white light pouring into you through the top of your head. This divine alchemical elixir now pours down through the top of your head, through your brain, down through your neck, relaxing the muscles of your face, travelling down into your torso, filling your heart your lungs your abdomen your spleen down your arms into your legs every place in your body every cell…receiving this light, receiving this healing replacing all resistance of body of mind of spirit of feeling…with total acceptance…all dis ease now melting away..all cellular functioning reviving and rejuvenating on this day.
Your whole body is full and surrounded with the energy from your chakras. At this moment you are aware of the core of each chakra pay attention to any physical feeling this may be in the form of flutters in your stomach, earache, stiffness in your back or other aches. Watch, observe, BE present.
Ask empowering questions: What needs to change in my life? Who Do I need to forgive? Does taking that job, going on that holiday etc. serve me?
Now surrender to the Grace of Spirit. Surrender who you are, surrender this day, whatever it looks like. Trust. Open your heart to all living things. Give thanks for this day, this new chance, this new opportunity at life. For the relationships that are good and peaceful, give thanks and commit to participate even more fully, even more compassionately, to be an even greater conduit of love. Now call to mind who you are not in good relationship with. The people who trigger you, who have hurt you or who you are in conflict with. Feel the burdens in your heart now see if you can allow the feeling of forgiveness to move through your heart. Not just forgiveness toward them, but also forgiveness toward yourself.
In the mind of God lies a perfect day, as long as we know that we are completely acceptable just as we are. Choose to love yourself, embrace yourself in this moment as the perfect soul that incarnated so divinely however long ago. Call in your allies, spirit guides seen and unseen to surround you and minister onto you strength where you are weak, kindness where you are harsh. Call in the four directions, the four elements and let there by on this day, Angels to your left and to your right, Angels above you and Angels below you. A path lies ahead of you, of Grace, Love, Power and Freedom. Surrender now who you are and what you do. Let yourself become the person you would be if we knew that you were Spirit, if you knew that you were limitless. On this day and every day.
Say to yourself: May the light of Spirit fall upon me, fill every part of my being so that I may be a light unto others. Where I journey today, may I know that this is holy ground. May every encounter be a holy encounter. May I remember that everyone is a reflection and everyone is the same soul as I am, there is no separation. Any situation that triggers me is a lesson for me so that I may remember to totally accepting myself and love myself…so that I may remember that no one and nothing can be blamed or shamed for making me feel anything. They are just offering me a gift to love myself and others more fully. May this day be blessed and may I be blessed so that I may be a blessing. May more freedom be brought ti my life, health to my body and graciousness to my heart. On this day and every day, may heaven come closer to earth for me and for all human kind.
3. LET GO AND TRUST DIVINE FLOW
What if we believed there was a divine order to things? When we consciously choose to trust the flow, we connect to Spirit. We begin to realise that there is a force that is holding everything together without our conscious control. We get much closer to God by trusting in the the flow and journey, than trying to trust the things that we think we can count on or know. Nature knows how to do everything without our interference, just like our bodies respond to injury and heal and babies grow in the Mother with an inherent natural genius. The more we let go and trust our higher self , divine order – the more our actions will support and manifest the greatest path and experience of Spirit. What if we could see in our daily lives the working of Spirit moving through us, loving us, caring for us, protecting us. What if we believed that we could relax…trust in the force that moves the universe…believe that the universe knows what its doing and is on our side.
Our attempts to direct this force by trying to make things happen only interferes with it…our willingness to relax into it allows it to work on our behalf. To relax, to feel the love in our heart and surrender is to stop struggling, questioning and trying to figure things out, or be in a hurry to plan our futures. The world softens when we soften. If we can stop controling and simply love what is instead, this will heal every aspect of our lives in every moment. Present Love is what matters more than anything if we are to live in freedom.
I am not referring to personal love for it is never a person that we truly want, deep down, it is the the feeling of love, which is here all the time!!! To be present in Love is to be with Spirit, to be with Spirit is to hear an ancient melody that awakens the great forgetting. The great forgetting that we are Love. Think of someone that you love right now. Feel the love. That feeling is accessable in any given moment weather a particular person is here or not. It is the feeling of love that we need to focus on, not the object of love. In this space we can love everyone! All of us are in spiritual labor, giving birth to love and freedom in some way or another.
4. CREATE AN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR UNCONSCIOUS
Your shadow is the bridge, the medium between you and self-realisation. She knows your past and your future, and she knows how and when your unique Being is ready to blossom. Forget someone else’s path, steps to success or programme for greater happiness. Make yourself your primary relationship, not something or somebody out there and get to know thy Self, shadows and all. Sit at the feet of the Teacher inside you and learn what makes you tick, what makes you blow up, what you deny, what your wounds and your shadows are. Wherever there is a charge, there is wound…be interested. We cannot know divine without knowing ourselves, without knowing all of ourselves, including the the collective and personal shadows. Within us all is a pathway that leads to an inner secret, a doorway which leads us to the energies that influence our impulses, reactions and desires.
Our inner journey casts a reflection that takes us beyond this level of maya, for it’s far too easy to let ourselves become stagnant and get stuck in patterns of lower level thoughts of thinking, pride, guilt and worry. But once we are willing to explore the unconscious, we see our triggers and reaction as a cue to start rising up and reaching for next level! It’s never details of our story thats important, its the commitment to continuously do the inner work of meeting our demons, our deepest fears, our core wounds, so that when they come up instead of reacting from an unconscious child, or trying to prove a point, we can respond from the conscious adult. If you have no idea what your shadows or core wounds are, and feel like you need some support in beginning a journey into the depths of the unconscious then book a session with me or with a practitioner you respect.
Without knowing your shadows, you cannot shine your brightest light. Once you learn the process of discovering your shadows, you can meet them and they become your greatest allys. But some are very tricky! so we need support to delve into the unconscious parts of us that push love, peace and freedom away. Sessions are great catalyst for discovering ways “in” and the next step is being able to do this for yourself. There is also a beautiful shamanic journey I guide as part of the shadow sessionto release self limiting beliefs and behaviours that we took on from our mothers and fathers, so that your identity can die and you can make space for the Real You to be reborn. In this journey you will let go of what you have held onto most tightly so that you can open a new Path that is YOURS and that takes you beyond your conditioning.
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5. CONNECT TO GOD THROUGH SEXUALITY
A new culture is emerging….where our sexuality connects us to God… relationships to God..and we can all live together in joyful harmony working towards Love and Freedom untied and giving the future generation a framework for that union. This is a whole blog in itself and something I am extremely passionate about, but basically the main energy of connecting to God through Sex is Union…dissolving all separation between us, the beloved and God. When THAT energy gets channeled into our human sexuality we heal, we experience Divine Ecstacy and we Remember God. This work serves the Birth of the Divine Human through Sacred Relationship. It transforms sex into the highest meditative practice and rewires outdated belief patterns about sex being only a physical experience. The best way to feel this one is to experience it. In my sessions, the guidance offered will help you to do this.
6. SPEND TIME IN NATURE
Make real contact with the environment you’re living in. Be Aware of it and stay in tune with Her, she feels you! Go outside, find a quiet place in nature somewhere and surrender yourself to Mother Earth. Share your sorrows, your fears, your dreams and allow her to be there for you. She will caress and nourish you. It is Allow yourself these magical healing moments. Being in nature is so restorative, so beautiful and and gives us direct contact to God. If we cannot feel and see the reflection of God in the miracle of a flower, in the miracle of the ocean, a tree, the sun, the moon…then where? Nature gives us a beautiful gateway to Remember.
7. IDENTIFY, ACKNOWLEDGE AND FEEL THE DIVINE FEMININE AND DIVINE MASCULINE IN YOUR BODY. EXPERIENCE WHAT IT IS TO BE A CONDUIT FOR SPIRIT/LOVE/PURE AWARENESS
Our practice, in living as a conduit for Divine, is to relax the habitual habits of contraction, of control…to open, to stay awake through it all. Empowerment is no longer something you do or a state you achieve. It is unrestricted life force rushing through you, intuitively, wildly, magnificently and with a presence that controls nothing and no one.
Divine Masculine is the energy and presence that witnesses without judgement, creates safety and holds space. He is grounded and stands as a tree stands, unshakable by even the harshest of elements. He sees and feels the Goddess within and without:
“A Goddess is a woman who emerges from deep within herself. She is a woman who has honestly explored her darkness and learned to celebrate her light. She is a woman who is able to fall in love with the magnificent possibilities within her. She is a woman who knows of the magic and mysterious places inside her, the sacred places that can nurture her soul and make her whole. She is a woman who radiates light. She is magnetic. She walks into a room and male and female alike feel her presence. She has power and softness at the same time. She has powerful sexual energy that’s not dependent on physical looks. She has a body that she adores and it shows by the way she comfortably lives and moves in it. She cherishes beauty, light and love. She is a mother to all children. She flows with life in effortless grace. She can heal with a look or a touch of the hand. She is fiercely sensual and fearlessly erotic and engages in sex as her way to share with another in touching the divine. She is compassion and wisdom.
She is seeker of Truth and cares deeply about something bigger than herself. She is a woman who knows that her purpose in life is to reach higher and rule with love. She is woman in love with love. She knows that joy is her destiny and by embracing it and sharing it with others, wounds are healed. She is a woman who has come to know that her partner is as tender, lost, and frightened as she has been at times. She has come to understand the scars of the boy in him and knows that together, love can be the relief, the healing of their wounds. She is a woman who can accept herself as she is. She can accept another as they are. She is able to forgive her mistakes and not feel threatened by another’s even when attacked. She is a woman who can ask for help when she needs it or give help when asked. She respects boundaries, hers and another’s. She can see God in another’s eyes. She can see God in her own. She can see God in every life situation. She is woman who takes responsibility for everything she creates in her life. She is a woman who is totally supportive and giving. She is a Goddess.”
~ Artist Rafael Espitia Perea
When we explore and learn to embody Divine Masculine and Feminine, we then feel ourselves as the Spirit beyond both. We have moved beyond the Inner Marriage and allowed the identity to shift out feminine and masculine to the Self which transcends them both and is also born through their union. If you go to my sessions pg, you will see sessions specifically designed around these very concepts.
Finally, walk your authentic Soul Path with Courage without the need for applause or approval. Listen to your heart and become attuned to your own passions and super powers and trust that this is what you are here to transmit into the world. Feel the unique Divine Spark that is your Soul. In that place there is no fear. There is no uncertainty. There is only clarity and purpose. It’s where you connect with your essence and where the dark births the light so that love can flow freely.
Most people imagine themselves to be separate from God, from each other, and from everything else that is. In truth, we are all intrinsically connected with everything – including that which we call God, Divinity or Spirit…I hope this blog helps you to Remember.